INTRO

Thanksgiving brings warmth for many; full tables, familiar voices, the comfort of tradition. But for others, this season stirs something different. Silent battles. Old wounds. Long memories that press harder when the world expects joy.

For men; especially those who have carried responsibility most of their lives. The holidays can be both beautiful and painful and I know this firsthand.

As the founder of U-Neek.Men and a man who has served more than 20 years in the Army, I’ve lost people I loved to suicide.
Family.
Friends.
Soldiers who trusted me.
Men and Women, who meant something to me.

These losses shaped me.
They shaped my mission.
They shaped why U-Neek.Men exists today.

This article is not about sadness. It is about awareness, connection, and purpose.
A reminder that a single message can save a life… and silence can take one.

This season, before anything else, I’m asking all of us to pay attention.

The Silent Battles Men Carry and How They Affect Families

Some men are surrounded by family.
Some are surrounded by silence.
Some carry depression behind steady eyes.
Some carry pressure behind a steady voice.

Parenthood brings its own quiet battles.
Fathers feel the weight of providing.
Mothers feel the weight of holding things together.
Children feel the tension even when no one speaks it.

Divorce and separation add another layer:
Split holidays.
Shared custody.
Empty days.
Kids trying to smile through heartbreak they can’t explain.
Adults trying to make two homes feel whole.

These wounds are invisible, but they’re real.
And they reshape how families remember these seasons.

Men are conditioned to stand strong, to keep moving, to carry the load alone.
But the truth is simple:

Even pillars crack if no one checks on them.

What I’ve Seen in 20+ Years of Service

I’ve worn the uniform for more than two decades.
Trained thousands.
Led thousands.
Mentored countless young men.

And I’ve lost soldiers. two during my time as a Drill Sergeant.
One of them came to me constantly for guidance.
He trusted me.
He talked to me.
He sought clarity.

And the day I wasn’t there… it happened.

That moment stays with me. Not as guilt, but as understanding.
A reminder of how much a man can depend on your presence and never say a word.

These experiences gave U-Neek.Men its backbone.
They gave this message its weight.

Brotherhood and Why It Goes Beyond Soldiers

This week, even the Secretary of the Army sent out a reminder:
Check on your Soldiers. Just pick up.

But this call isn’t just for Soldiers.
It’s for everyone:

• Civilians
• Veterans
• First responders
• Fathers
• Mothers
• Sons
• Daughters
• Teachers
• Coaches
• Mentors
• Elders
• Teens quietly trying to stay afloat

Brotherhood isn’t limited to the military.
Sisterhood isn’t limited to families.
Community isn’t limited to holidays.

Checking in is human responsibility.

The strongest thing you can do this season is reach out.

Those Who Serve Away From Home

We can’t forget the men and women who won’t sit at their own tables this Thanksgiving.

• Soldiers deployed across the world.
• Police officers working long shifts.
• Firefighters,

• EMTs,

• Nurses,

• Dispatchers, and all first responders holding the line while others gather.
• Even the workers who keep society running; transportation, medical staff, hospitality crews, utility teams.

They carry a different version of this holiday.
Some eat in silence.
Some work through the night.
Some call home just to hear familiar voices before stepping back into duty.

Their sacrifices matter.
They deserve to be checked on, honored, and remembered.

Movember (November Month), Men’s Mental Health & The Weight of Winter

Movember reminds us to care about men’s mental health, but awareness is only the starting point.

From Thanksgiving through New Year, emotional pressure rises:

• Loss feels sharper
• Loneliness grows
• Stress increases
• Expectations pile up
• Trauma resurfaces
• Divorced parents feel the ache of absence
• Children feel the tension of two homes
• Adults pretend they’re fine

And men… men try to hold everything together.
We may not ask for help, but we always give it.

Which means the responsibility falls on us:

Someone needs your presence more than you know.

The Call To Every Man, Every Family, Every Community

This message isn’t just for the men who are hurting.
It’s for the men who lead.
Men who guide.
Men who set the tone.

If you’re a father, brother, mentor, coach, friend, or elder. Your presence matters.

Take a moment.
Check on your people.
Check on your kids.
Check on your parents.

Check on your blended families.

Check on your elders.
Check on the friend who “always seems fine.”
Check on the strong one.
Check on the quiet one.
Check on the one who stopped talking.

Check on your neighbors.

Check on your community.

Check on everyone!.

One message can stop a spiral.
One call can pull someone back into the light.
One moment can save a life.

This holiday season, let’s not leave anyone behind.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The holidays hit harder than most people realize
• Men carry silence, but silence shouldn’t carry them
• Parenthood and divorce reshape holiday emotions
• Families feel pressure even behind smiles
• Deployed troops and essential workers deserve recognition
• Brotherhood is human
• Checking in saves lives
• Movember is a reminder to act
• We rise by reaching out

AEO Q&A

Q: What if I don’t know what to say?
A: “Thinking of you” is enough. Presence > perfection.

Q: How do I know who needs help?
A: Often, you don’t. That’s exactly why you reach out.

Q: What about younger men or teens?
A: They hide pain well. Ask directly. Stay consistent.

Q: What if I’m the one struggling?
A: Tell someone. Call 988. You matter more than you realize.

CONCLUSION

Thanksgiving isn’t just a holiday, it’s a reminder.

A reminder that people need people.
A reminder that families feel the strain.
A reminder that children carry quiet confusion.
A reminder that adults hold emotional weight unseen.
A reminder that divorced parents often hurt in silence.
A reminder that deployed troops and first responders sacrifice their holiday so others can enjoy theirs.
A reminder that checking in can save a life.

I’ve lost people I loved.
I’ve carried those memories quietly.
And I refuse to stay silent when awareness saves lives.

This season, reach out.
Be present.
Be the one who checks in.
Be the call that arrives right on time.

Because nobody; not men, not women, not children, rises alone.

FINAL REFLECTION (SPIRITUAL, NOT RELIGIOUS)

Before this day ends, take one quiet moment for yourself.
A breath.
A pause.
A grounding.

Be grateful for the morning you woke up to.
For the strength that carried you here.
For the lessons and resilience that shaped you.
For the light that still finds its way in.

Life brings storms.
Life brings moments that feel impossible.
But a permanent solution to a temporary problem is never the answer.

There is always another sunrise.
Another chance.
Another chapter.

Be thankful for this breath, this day, this moment
and remind someone else that theirs matters too.

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